How can we add more mindfulness in our days? Mindfulness is a way to shift our attention to the present moment, no matter what we are doing. We can find calm among the chaos if we just use a few simple tips.
I had meditated for years but would still find myself getting stressed out during the day. It was always a question – why can’t I keep calm at work? I mean, I meditate! A conflict with my boss, parenting struggles, even just work life balance created so much stress. The all-too-common struggle of working people everywhere. I was practicing mindfulness – as far as I understood. I woke up early, did an hour of yoga and meditation before leaving for work. So why was I still caught up in so much reactivity?? I had read tips about how to be mindful, but nothing ACTUALLY worked when I was in the throes of conflict, deadlines, or just rushing around trying to keep all the balls in the air.
Mindfulness is much more than sitting down to meditate. It’s a practice of bringing ourselves into the present when we aren’t meditating. We can access it at any time once we know how. If we don’t practice when we are calm, we won’t be able to use these tools when we are in the throes of something stressful. Pausing is a very simple practice.
How To Use Pausing Practice
- Stop where you are.
- Take a deep inhale and exhale.
- Pause.
- Notice where you are and what is happening around you. Attune to the present moment. Take a moment to focus on the senses – notice what you see, what you hear, what you can touch, any scents around you.
- Proceed.
Pausing hits the reset button, brings us into the present, and allows us choices. In a stressful situation, after that pause you can choose how to move forward. We can tap into our inner wisdom. Ask – how does my best self want to react to this situation? Do I want to unclench my jaw and speak calmly? Do I want to ask for a few minutes to think about it as the best next step?
The key is learning to pause when in a calm time. It’s difficult to get there when you are in the middle of a stressful situation. How do we practice? We can choose a time when we do something regularly and pause. For example, every time I sit down to eat I will pause. Or before I open my computer I will pause. After brushing my teeth, every time I enter a certain room – you can see the list goes on. Post it notes are very helpful – I have one on the door to my office reminding me to pause as I enter.
These mindful moments can really add up. We lower our stress levels every time we reset and take a deep breath. Try adding a pause every day for a week and see if you notice a change. I have seen a huge change myself since beginning this practice. Hope you do too.
Pausing for Presence
UncategorizedHow can we add more mindfulness in our days? Mindfulness is a way to shift our attention to the present moment, no matter what we are doing. We can find calm among the chaos if we just use a few simple tips.
I had meditated for years but would still find myself getting stressed out during the day. It was always a question – why can’t I keep calm at work? I mean, I meditate! A conflict with my boss, parenting struggles, even just work life balance created so much stress. The all-too-common struggle of working people everywhere. I was practicing mindfulness – as far as I understood. I woke up early, did an hour of yoga and meditation before leaving for work. So why was I still caught up in so much reactivity?? I had read tips about how to be mindful, but nothing ACTUALLY worked when I was in the throes of conflict, deadlines, or just rushing around trying to keep all the balls in the air.
Mindfulness is much more than sitting down to meditate. It’s a practice of bringing ourselves into the present when we aren’t meditating. We can access it at any time once we know how. If we don’t practice when we are calm, we won’t be able to use these tools when we are in the throes of something stressful. Pausing is a very simple practice.
How To Use Pausing Practice
Pausing hits the reset button, brings us into the present, and allows us choices. In a stressful situation, after that pause you can choose how to move forward. We can tap into our inner wisdom. Ask – how does my best self want to react to this situation? Do I want to unclench my jaw and speak calmly? Do I want to ask for a few minutes to think about it as the best next step?
The key is learning to pause when in a calm time. It’s difficult to get there when you are in the middle of a stressful situation. How do we practice? We can choose a time when we do something regularly and pause. For example, every time I sit down to eat I will pause. Or before I open my computer I will pause. After brushing my teeth, every time I enter a certain room – you can see the list goes on. Post it notes are very helpful – I have one on the door to my office reminding me to pause as I enter.
These mindful moments can really add up. We lower our stress levels every time we reset and take a deep breath. Try adding a pause every day for a week and see if you notice a change. I have seen a huge change myself since beginning this practice. Hope you do too.
Walking Meditation
UncategorizedFinding time to meditate can be a challenge. We’re all so busy that having one more thing to squeeze in can be daunting. One practice that can help is walking meditation. If you weren’t aware, meditation can be done sitting, lying down, standing or walking. Walking meditation is a powerful skill that can also be a nice change of pace for those who have a regular meditation practice. Added bonus – it gets us to move the body and add gentle exercise to our day.
Walking meditation can be done anytime. At the beginning or end of the day, or even as a break in the middle. Especially if you need to clear your mind, walking meditation is a great way to do so. Find a quiet route to wander. We spend too much time rushing from place to place. Decide your walk will be a meditation – a slow walk. There is no destination, just a stroll. It’s usually best to use a path that is familiar to you so you don’t have to think too much about where you are and have no risk of getting lost.
HOW TO DO A WALKING MEDITATION
Start by taking small, slow steps that align with your breath. As you inhale, step forward with one foot, and as you exhale place the other foot. See how slow you can make your breathing and your steps. Consider how the foot hits the ground – heel rolls through the toe. Feel each part of the foot as it plants on the ground.
Be conscious about where you are placing your gaze while you walk. You can keep the eyes focused on a point right in front of you, or down towards the ground to avoid distractions. It’s a little easier to keep focused when the eyes are looking down – just be sure to look a few steps ahead so you have an awareness of where you are heading and what’s in front of you. As in seated meditation, the mind will wander. When it does, bring it back to your point of focus.
It’s that simple!
You can do this solo or walk with a friend as long as you agree that at least a part of the walk will be spent in silence. You could dedicate a part of a longer walk to mindful walking and spend the rest of it walking as normal. Habit stacking is a great way to make new habits stick. Adding a new thing onto something you do all the time is the key. In this case, If you have some walking to do already – if you have to walk between buildings during the workday, walk out to get your lunch, or walk to use public transportation, you could make that trip a walking meditation. Walking meditation is a wonderful way to incorporate mindfulness into your busy day.